Nov 27, 2005

Parents

Parents, those people who do everything for us, but somehow we are always able to find a way to be ungrateful to them. What's worse, they completely take it in their stride, as if you acted in a completely natural way.

This little piece is dedicated to my Dad. Never could find the perfect words to go upto him and tell him how much he means to me and how I regret the unkindness I've shown so many innumerable times. I know I lack the tact to bring him to this page too, I just hope by some chance browsing he does come here.

I recollect one incident in particular.

It was sometime when I was in Class 6th, in Delhi. I had one of those groups which just needed an excuse to crucify someone for not being 'cool'. This time watching Disney's Alladin was number one in the list of must-have-done-s. And as fate would have it I had not. I realised this just in time and rushed to my Dad, "I want to see this movie, and I want to see it now." (Boy I must have been one irritating kid!)
Well it obviously didn't matter to me that it was raining cats and dogs outside and that we didn't have a car.
I remember us going in the auto rickshaw to Priya(now PVR) in Vasant Vihar, I remember Dad leaving me near a shop while he stood in the queue in the rain getting a couple of tickets. Then both of us, totally drenched, walked into this theatre and sat in the absolutely front row (we were late and these were the only ones available). I wonder if he felt embarrased walking in drenched into a movie theatre. I was strangely not bothered.

Now whenever I see the movie, or any reference to Disney, I squirm, Guilt poking me with everything she has.

The lesson I learnt? If I have a really trying kid someday and he's really testing my patience, I'll just look back to the moment when dad got the tickets, turned back, totally drenched and flashed a smile and waved the tickets.

Thanks Papa.

12 comments:

  1. no matter how difficult we make it for our parents, they r always there...so much so that we take them for granted...
    and then we 'grow up' ...

    nice post...brings back so many memories!

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  2. Bingo, u r bang on target!!!

    Both of us know there is only one person who can juggle and rust and just be dust!

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  3. Just hope our prayers for each other work.... no calvin for us man!! no calvin!!...

    oh... its my worst nightmare...

    I wish i had 'pained' my parents in only such simple ways.... hmmm...

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  4. My doubt is that when we/you are in a similar situation (around 15 years later), when a request is made(say sprinked with some 'sex' ingredient, like a (then)britney spears concert), would you whack and say No, or oblige ?

    At that time, it seemed right and now it seems wrong...so you see...

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  5. very touching...gave me the absolute goosebumps :)
    man...are we growing old or what...suddenly fatherhood doesn't seem all that far away :P

    also just wondering why all male commenters use names and females use aliases...hehe...no offence meant!

    also sandy dude, can u tell me how i can add a freaking pic to my blogger profile...have been trying since ages w/o much success :(

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  6. hi
    nice post...
    yeah, we've all done things that do bring that pang of guilt right back...
    parents'd do anything when they know it's important to us, however insignificant it may be...
    but then it's the happiness and the feeling they see in us at that moment that is important to them. then and there.

    selfless they are.

    atleast you're thankful...
    it's gone the whole way.

    :)
    nice post indeed...

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  7. tere ko dekh kar hi pata chalta hai, saale ussi samay tere dad ko 2 lagana tha kheech kar, aur bolna tha chup baith haramkhor, haram ka kha raha hai utna kafi nahi hai, ab haram ka movie bhi dekhna hai?

    waise sahi main 2day wen one looks back and realises what a pain he/she had been to them and how more often than not they took all those tantrums in their stride. hats off to them

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  8. One of the ads of K3G comes to mind...

    Jaya Bachhan says something like " Why is it that moms keep telling their children how much they love them..."

    and Amitabh Bachhan completes it ..." But dad's, for all they may want, never say it out loud"...

    Ultimately, K3G's tagline holds very true indeed..." Its all about loving your parents"

    Nice post... brought back lots and lots of memories :)

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  9. Was reading jeff archer ka twist in the tale (short stories) usmein ek kahani ka ek line padh kar tere post ka yaad aa gaya, wont go into the story but directly the puchline, when one chap asks the hero howcome his father did some trivial work that he did, the hero replied “coz he did not have the father that I had”

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  10. nice post man ... not to mention the innumerable memories that it brought back abt me being an absolute p.ass (pain i....) that I have been to my parents. but really hav been looking at family n kids with a whole new outlook ... its kinda strange really!! never have thought about changes in me so much even during adolescence!! whaddya say??

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  11. Loved the last para ... If only in my lifetime, I could do enuf to make them feel so proud of me that they feel proud of themselves even more for making me what I am ... entirely. That with all my faults and follies ... with the capacity to execute a small part of their lessons, I could be good enuf.

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  12. heart suddenly feels heavy as lead...goose pimples all over...i can feel the red in my face as i draw the analogies...

    i bow to u...didnt know ppl still wrote stuff like this...

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